HI Dennis, Hawaii is nice this time of year. I am sitting on my lanai at 8 p.m. as I write this. Glass of wine close by. I think you are correct not to read too much into it and i am grateful to you for the insight into the male mind. The man and I have not yet met, but plan to this weekend. We both have kids the same age. ( He has a boy age 12 and a girl 17). She actually has told him he needs to start dating again. He is new to online dating and is very sweet. And I have told him I am a very ordinary lady with a potty mouth, road rage, and parenting challenges. I did not want him to think I was not capable of bad behavior. So I did tell him I do not want to be on a pedestal. I want a partner in every way. He and I thinka like and his kids are doing well. He has raised them without much help from the mother who seems to be in her own world. So it is interesting. He strikes me as very sincere and probably will spoil me if I allow that to happen. I think Idaho would be very cool, and I look forward to visiting one of by BFF's there next summer. My niece goes to college in Spokane. Talk to u later. ALoha!

Hi Denbob, Could I ask you a question? What do you think of a man who says he "puts women on a pedestal"? I told him I want a partner who walks beside me, and I have many flaws. I don't want to be put on a pedestal. My impression is men are very disappointed when a woman falls off the pedestal and is a normal every day human. He is someone I have met online and seems to be into me. Also, he is six years younger, and a Taurus. Good match for Capricorns ( me). I would love to hear what you and any of your men friends think. What does it actually mean if you put a woman on a pedestal? Thanks, Susan

Hi denbod, I cannot leave a post in you pushing 40 group since I am 51. But I have atwelve year old girl. I have had 3 relationships since my divorce 3 years ago. It seems like too many men to me, but I am learning to cut my losses faster. She met the last man ( Incompatible Bedmate. He was only here for dinner, and left, but she is at the age that she wants to do her own thing, so she went in her room . The last boyfriend was last winter. We all did many activities together and she really liked him. He was great to her, but he was not the one for me. Looking back I wonder if I should have waited for those two to meet. I was sure he was a keeper at the time, and that influenced my decision. The relationship prior to that was with a man that did not want ot spend much time with her. So it was limited, and she did not get too attached to him. We are still friends after 5 years. My daughter was seven at the time I met him, and he thought it was best to wait . SO I waited six months for them to meet. I have decided it is best to be completely up front with your children on what it going on. THey are smart and very perceptive. Each child is so different,but my friends tell me it is much easier with girls than boys. I think it also depends on what your relationship is with their mother. I have played golf with my exhusband and our daughter, and we share holidays , so our relationship is okay. I usually tell him when I am dating someone who will meet our daughter. Not everyone is oomfortable doing that, but it works for me. I hope it helps. Your daughter is probably aware of everything that goes on with your relationships. Girls are much more in the know now than I was at age 13.

Hi Denbob, Thank you for taking the time to comment on Incompatible bedmates. I was impressed with your insight and right on assessment that he would eventually not like the way the towels are hung on the rack. He actually had made a comment on the toilet paper roll which 50% of people care how the paper rolls off, but I don't care. So he has some issues. Thanks again