Sexually knowledgeable in must haves?

What exactly does it mean when someone puts this in their must haves? I am not sure which way to take this. Does it mean just someone who won't just lie there, someone who has had many partners, or someone who is able to communicate their desires? I have not had many partners, only 1, so I am not sure if I would fit this?

It's kind of a tricky one...only the match who uses it really knows to what extent.

Pretty touchy subject, too. Probably not something that needs to be brought up or chatted about in that first OC with most people. Pretty private area.

Use your judgement along with your gut instinct as you get to know this person. Plus, remember, we'll never find someone who matches exactly everything we mention on our profile and such.

i dunno but when you find out, let us know.

what does it mean on stage two when she asks "how do you feel about premarital sex? " is that a trick question?

Does it mean:

A. I'd like to have premarital sex or

B. I'm not into premarital sex but if you are... CLOSED-OTHER ?

never thought of using that one, myself...but I guess it could mean she hasn't had any in a while, and wants to know if that's ok with you!!!

Or she could be a prude....

Either way, isn't that a stupid question?!?!?

yeah, it is a stupid question.... kinda personal... its like a guy asking a gal if she uses duracell or energizer batteries in her bob. ==:ox

gotta go with the "rabbit"

So many of the MHCS's are real vague. Especially when it comes to S E X. IMHO any S E x talk doesn't belong at that stage. Needs to be agreed on at some point but having it that soon is like meeting someone saying HI my name is Propa and then asking what sort of things are you into. Just not right.

pk

ps I did get a woman who had Por n as a Cant Stand. She got the close stick when I saw that.

I had one of those too... she poofed on me at stage 3

+1000 for you.

Sadly, this isn't always true. The absolutely worst lover I had - as in totally clueless - had been married for 12 years.

On the other hand, there must have been SOMEthing good about him for her to last 12 years with him before dumping him for being lousy in the sack, hee hee heeeeeeeee

I have been on eHarmony for over two years and just got the Premarital question for the first time yesterday... never had to answer that one and wasn't comfortable with it. I did the write-in thing and let the match know. 90 percent of my matches do have the "sexually knowledgeable" MH and often it comes with the CS one labeled "uninterested" which is defined by someone who is "not interested in having sex on a regular basis". So that begs the question how often is regular...

I don't view the MHCH as inappropriate because they are not directed at an match specifically... they are guidelines. They do not bother me, in fact I think they are very telling and important. They are the advantage to Guided Communication IMHO.

If two virgins got married, that would be like the blind leading the blind. They may not learn a thing over the course of the marriage. Same goes for prudes, uptight people, insecure people, and the clueless or selfish. Marriage is a bad barometer for "sexually knowledgable" imho.

Personally, I'm uncomfortable when matches refer to sex during the Guided Communication part. I think it's too intimate a topic before you've even met someone. Depending on the rest of the profile or the tone of communication, I've closed matches because of it...

Honestly I have it listed as one of my must haves. I am a sexual abuse survivor and I don't have many problems being with a partner as a result but there are things that I need to be open about with them. I also am very open about talking about sex so I want someone who can talk about it with out giggling or getting embarrassed easily. I am a creative person and that extends to the bedroom so some one that only wants vanilla sex is going to be boring to me quickly.

I think this is more of a subtle subconscious effort on the part of the person asking to ensure they're sexually compatable with their date/partner etc. More than likely in past relationships they've been with someone they felt was great and loved but found this part to be unsatisfying.