Removing my match!

Hi there!

I was informed that eHarmony "has taken action to remove one of my matches". I was also advised to discontinue any further communication with this match!

The most common reason for account closure is a violation of eHarmony's Terms and Conditions such as the misrepresentation of personal information (name, identity, address, age or marital status)

I've been communicating with this match outside the eHarmony.

What do you think? Have you ever been informed that one of your matches has been removed?

He's a scammer !

Yep - he's a scammer. Not really a big deal if he has your personal email address and/or IM id. What have you 'shared' outside of eHarm with him?

Hi I'm just wondering how the eHarmony verifies details and data? I suppose that someone had to reported that "scammer is a scammer" ! Have they checked him or what? There is a long distance between me and him and he wants to come over.

ok, I'm going to sound mean and a bit like Phil McGraw here but, ARE YOU KIDDING ME??!
Why are you actually considering allowing this guy "to come over" after you KNOW FOR SURE there's SOMETHING NOT RIGHT ABOUT HIM??! Believe me honey, there's someone out there for you, a good guy; you do NOT have to settle for less just so you won't be alone.

If you meet with the scammer/killer/rapist/robber/etc and if you make it through the meeting, not sure where you should post your "he turned out the be bad" whine... perhaps this same thread for the next person even toying with the same idea??

Please make sure you give ALL his details/info to a family member or friend before meeting him (this is good advice for ANYONE meeting a stranger the first several times). Don't forget to list his eharmony 'name/info' also, though that's probably fake but perhaps they can get an IP addy so the police will have somewhere to start should they find you dead or you go missing. :-(

<sigh> and it was such a good morning when I woke up; now I feel sad.

I'll try this again, though I keep getting my posts deleted (not being vulgar etc <shrug>)

Fact: The guy is NOT what he has presented himself to be or he would not have been removed.
So, you want to go against your gut (because obviously you feel you should ask about this) and meet this guy anyway?

When it turns out to be a bad experience, could you please post in this same thread so the next person considering this would be enlightened?

I would advise against it- EH has some issues, but this seems like a good one for protecting us. Scammers or what other unsavory people want to jump in fast and move fast- and they can be real charmers telling you and being just what you are looking for- I would think twice and go with EH's gut on this one.

Anita, I've been on & off eH for over a year, and I've had....maybe 15 matches kicked out of the system. Averages out to maybe one a month or 1% of the matches overall, so I don't use it as a measure of MOST of the people on eH. Somewhere there is another thread about this same thing.

There ARE some warning signals for most (not all) of the scammers. Their photos? Usually look like a model shot....because IT IS!! Most claim to be widowed, love to help the orphans, have a beloved child they are raising alone... If you have excellent grammar skills - read the profile carefully. You'll see that it's not-quite-right on grammar and syntax as used in this country. OH - the serious scammers always list occupation as import/export or something that will easily explain why they travel outside the country (they were never here....) or why they'll have an amazing something you should invest in..... Almost all prefer FastTrack, and ALL will try to get you into personal email/IM immediately.

After you've seen a few of these - you'll get to where you can spot them immediately. I've reported my last 4 suspicions to eH and each was kicked off. The most recent was yesterday. My first scammer was REALLY smooth. He wanted to "come over" too. From Arizona to Tennessee. But unexpected biz developments kept delaying the trip. He got booted from eH while we were talking and it shocked me. He had a ready explanation for how it happened...blah, blah, blah. Looking back - there WERE warning signs, but I was new at the internet gig & didn't catch them.

Ditch this guy. Move on. SOMETHING is not right, or they wouldn't have kicked him out.

I caught a scammer the other day, I went to this scammer site for pictures and one of the pictures they sent me was on this site. I contacted Eharmony and they sent me a reply that they looked into and promply removed their profile. I really was weary when their profile name was Mary, and they kept regarding themself as Mandy in e-mails that they asked me to talk out of eharmony. Then their e-mails were poorly written almost as if they spoke another language. I asked the person what their nationality was, and they told me half Polish half Nigerian. Then It clicked because the girl they sent me was definately not half Nigerian. Becareful what you do.

ok, share the site cause I think I'm getting some scammers! I have a Eugene who now in OC is suddenly Steven! And another who's TWO pictures do not look alike: one he looks very stereotypical Irish, red hair and very light/pink skin (think Conan O'Brian! sp?); the other he looks like a light brown/dark blonde haired tanned guy. He claims he's Italian. The Irish guy no way tanned that well LOL!