has anyone even had eharmony work out?

I have only had one match out of 50+ who have even gotten to open communication and only about 5 who have even send their first questions, and none who have started communication with me.

So... anyone even met a person off of this program?

Yes I think plenty of people have met and dated but I don't know what the statistics are on actual marriages although I do know that it happens. I know two people who met their current spouse on eHarmony. One of them is my ex-husband. eHarmony markets itself based on their compatibility matching. This makes potential subscribers feel warm and fuzzy inside like their money is well spent until they actually try the service. The amount of valid matches you receive will depend on the active subscribers your geographic location, and the amount you actually communicate with is anyone's guess. eH can guarantee nothing but somehow manages to convince people they can without saying much.

Yes I am jaded, is it possible to find the "one" on eHarmony? Yes. Probable? Not convinced.

well that just confirms that i was right in cancelling my subscription haha.

I had a date with an eHarmony match last night.

I am going to say this again. You get out of eHarmony what you put into it just as in anyother aspect of life. If you viewed the Questionnaire as a joke and just bleew through it without considering each question and how it related to you then you will get "jokes" for matches.

Do you have any better success with finding "the one" using other forms of meeting women?

I've met one woman so far. It didn't work out, as when she poofed afterwards she revealed how immature she is, but I'm working on the next one. I do think, however, that it is unwise to rely on eHarmony or any other dating site completely for your socializing. There's no perfect forum for it, unfortunately, online or in real life, and putting all of your eggs in one basket is generally a bad idea.

FYI I have met two girls from these Advice boards.

I dated a great girl I met on this site for about 4 months. In the long run things didnt work out but I wouldnt say it was anyones fault the chemistry just wasnt there I guess. I would not give up if I where you though.

Well I've met more girls out cruising on my suzuki in the last 5 days than I have in 6 months of e harmony. Problem is I'm no longer interested in the good ol' hump n dump. I am only 22 annnnddd there isn't anyone my age who wants more, and if they DO exhist they do a damn good job of hiding it.

And no I didnt goof around with my profile I put in what I truly am interested in.

"Do you have any better success with finding "the one" using other forms of meeting women?"

-No, I can get a gf simply by talking to random girls I run into in public. Im just sick of them being more interested in getting with that dude on the street bike than they are having a relation ship with me, almost seems like they are just looking for a confidence boost. Thats why i was hoping eharmony would help me out

Intex

I have had what I consider to be fairly good success on EH and even met a couple here on EHa. I joined EH in late June after being on Match for three years. Match was a complete waste of money for me. All I ever got there was scammers.

Since June I have maybe 200 matches and my matching has been off for probably 2/3's of that time now. Had a number go beyond the first set of questions. One date, Another match to the phone, and am expecting a phone call from a third Friday.

I am wondering a couple of things about your experience. You say that you only got 50 matches in 6 months. Are your preferences set a little too tight? What do you have for Distance? Mine is set a 120 miles with the second to most important preference on distance.

You also said you only had 5 send the first questions. Does this mean you didn't send the first questions to any until you were sent the questions first? It seems that the women on EH proper expect the men to send the questions first. I think out of the 200 I mentioned I only had one send me her questions before I sent mine.

I would guess my percentages are about the same as yours but for some reason I have a bigger pool to work from. Don't know how that could be unless you are in someplace like Rural Montana or North Dakota or someplace that is devoid of a lot of people. Where I am is fairly rural but by haveing my distance set where it is I cover Sioux Falls, DesMoines, Sioux City, and sometimes Omaha and the Twin Cities.

Hope this helps

pk

brownize... density has brought me to you... =0)

don't feel bad.... i've only met 2 out of 375... and one of them lived 5 hours away (had to go there for business anyway for a week)

Yes, people meet, but it's a numbers game--many of the matches you're sent will be non-paying members, and thus unable to communicate. Some of the remaining ones you won't find at all interesting. Of those you find interesting, some won't find you interesting. And so on.

Out of 6 months and 421 matches, I've had about 50 get past stage 1, and I've met 4. I'm marrying one of those in January. So yes, it does work, at least for some people.

intexgsxr - hump & dump? love it. I mean...the phrase, not the event.

I really have to ask - what qualifies as "works?" I have NO idea whether I'll meet the love of my life on eHarmony. Maybe. Maybe not. But I've met some truly AWESOME men, having been on & off the site for a little over a year. Now.....I'm a little older than you. As in - I'm probably also a little older than your mother! Your attitude seems healthy & sincere and I admire you for reaching out. Honestly, I've wondered why younger folks bother with sites like eH. Your pond is soooooooo much larger and better stocked than it is for us old geezers.

To answer the "does it work" question, I vote yes. IF you're open to new experiences. IF you're open to expanding your horizons, and IF you're open to meeting like-minded folks who just might not meet your prior notions of what makes a person appealing. At 22 - for me - yep, it was probably 98% about the initial physical appearance & attraction. At age almost 50 - it's more about discovering that intellectual and social compatibility are VERY sexy. Even if the packaging might not have been initially appealing.

And I'll take this opportunity to RANT a minute. So many people here (not you, intexgsxr) seem to have SUCH chips on their shoulder, such a sense of he/she done me wrong & everyone else is going to PAY....I think they'll never find a good relationship. At least not until they open themselves up to the FUTURE and quit dwelling on the past. end of rant. Cheers guys. TGIF!!!

I am almost the same age as you and I am finding the same thing with guys not being ready for a serious relationship. Do not give up. There are women out there who want a serious relationship. Good luck.

I actually met someone off eharmony, and we dated for 6 months, I thought she was it, until she started dropping bombshells on me that were not condusive to a lasting relationship-don't worry we ended everything amicably. Point being: it is possible to meet people off of EH, but it doesn't guarantee lasting relationships, nothing can. Just look at it as one more means to meet people, that's all it is. As for you Brownize, I noticed you live in Idaho, which tends to mean your in a sparsely populated area? If so, the odds are not in your favor that many people are on EH looking for dates. I live in a heavily urbanized area, and although I do meet people off of the internet, its still not easy. Remember its a numbers game out of 200 matches I may only meet one or two people. Just figure out a way to cast a larger net.

Well, I thought I had, but it turned out to be nothing, so I have essentually given up on eharmony. At this time I have decided that due to their lackluster screening, I am not going to be able to accept that anyone on the site is true to who they claim. At least on some of the free sites, I am not having to pay for jerks and fakers.

You're giving up because of one disappointment? At that rate you'll run out of dating sites pretty quickly...