closer or closee pet peeves

I'll start this one by saying it bugs me when someone in Canada , while I am in the U S, closes me out by just choosing "other" because they are too lazy to read the option list and just go to the end of the list for "other" when the real reason is seems to be "physical distance too far"

Yes, the horrible, dreaded, not-to-be-named "Other." :) My personal theory--it's the last one on the list, and that makes it attractive :)

I myself use "Hasn't responded" (if that's the case) or "Distance" but not if they're close by :) Although I do admit to using other for some unique situations.

I thought 'other' is for 'looks' since there's no option for that. I've been 'othered' several times, figured dark strawberry blonde is not for every guy (or maybe they thought I'm butt-ugly LOL!), but I've only used it for the slobs who can't be bothered to shave. Unkempt, scraggly facial hair gives me the willies {shiver} who knows what's crawling around in there!
Eeeek!

Remember, guys are usually very visual and have a mental image of what they want so some will close out fast based just on looks. Maybe one has 'exotic latino' in their mind and you're a blonde, or vice versa. Look at it this way: it's their loss, and they saved you some time!

aww... Ms Altair, call ehahaha and tell them to match you wif me. I'll OC with ya =0))

red heads walking down the street have been making perfectly normal men crash their cars since 1908 ;oP

Same with real light blonde. When I was younger my hair was so blonde my uncle thought my mother bleached it LOL! Guys would act ridiculous when they'd see me walking down the street, "ooooh baby {smooch smooch smooch}" like I was going to turn around and yell "oh come back and take me studly!" ROFL!

So, let's talk about this picture of yours... I notice your face is hairless and it's your body that's hairy/scraggly! Would you like to borrow some Wahl clippers to prep for a new pic?

The girls are just as, or even more so, visual than the guys and will close just as quick on looks alone.

A close is a close. If you are interested in a match choose to Send a Final Message and choose Good Luck and I thought we had possibilities. It can't hurt and who knows he may reconsider and open the match again. It has happened.

"Other" doesn't bother me as I know what that means. The ones that baffle me are Taking a Break and Pursuing Another Relationship. Then why are you on a dating site if you are not interested in finding a date there?

Perhaps some are, but in my experience it seems women are much more (for lack of a better word) forgiving of appearance. I'm almost to OC with someone who has not revealed his picture yet, so obviously I don't close out based on looks or no picture. I normally pay closer attention to the profile than the picture. I do have a scraggly facial hair phobia and will close for that, but FOR ME it's not a looks thing so much as a hygiene thing. IMHO If they have hair (cause I like bald/shaved heads too), it belongs on the head and nowhere else

I used to search for the listed "reason" that most closely fit the situation. Then I changed and decided to use the "least offensive", in my opinion. After reading different threads on these boards, I discovered that somebody is offended no matter what you choose. No one likes rejection. So, in the end, I just used "other" because it was at the bottom, closest to the "close" icon. They all mean the same thing anyway, "not interested".

Back when I first did a EH profile, I had recently ended a LTR. Once I started getting matches, I decided not to subscribe. Before I turned off matching, I closed all of them with I've decided to take a break because it was the truth. The idea of dating was fine until I realized I'd have to date an actual, live person.

I would rather have a guy close with other than not close at all or respond. Especially when you know they have checked your profile. I'm new at this whole thing, but it's obnoxious already! I personally say whatever is the truth, I mean why wouldn't you, it's not like you know this person and they should know why you aren't interested. Maybe I'm too honest...

Blackberry, i say we hog tie that little varmint and give him the waxing of his life! it may take 10 applications but we'll get him back to normalcy.

I've gotten a couple of 'others.' Big whoop. Move on. Later dude.

But what I don't understand are the "not ready for the next step" and "taking a break from dating" ones.

Then WHY ARE YOU HERE?

And isn't there a "I'd rather not say" option? What's that about?

Do any of you send a final message? The majority of them make it sound like you're begging them to come back, and I don't beg. For anything.

I won't send a final message to those who reply to your 1st set of questions with "CLOSED MATCH".

And I can't make myself reply with the "good luck on your search!" one. That one sounds like "hey, you decided I suck before even giving me a chance, but I really hope you find what you're looking for out there because I'm concerned for your future happiness...even though I don't know you and obviously won't since you shot me down without a chance!"

Can't do it.

i always wanted a high and tight hair cut... =0)

"I've gotten a couple of 'others.' Big whoop. Move on. Later dude."

I've gotten a couple of HUNDRED of them, and all I have to say is:

I have a major league pet peeve with anyone who uses the "Other" option without even asking one freakin' question. I wouldn't wish them ill per se, but if I found out that one or more of them developed an atomic case of food poisoning and threw up on the next person's shoes when she went to approach him or farted so bad that her prospective date and anyone within 15 feet caught one whiff of that odoriferous blast and thought a doberman had been beheaded with a paring knife, I couldn't help but laugh.

The other two that are major annoyances for me have to be:

"I would rather not say"
or
"I don't feel the chemistry is there"

The first one is basically saying "Other", but not in such polite terms. The second one is just plain frickin' stupid. HOW THE HELL can you say the chemistry is there or not there if you don't talk to the person or meet the person one time? These are the type of people that stare at orange juice containers because it says "Concentrate".