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Hello. I have a friend who I think is sexy as hell. I am very attracted to him. Will I turn him off if I initiate the conversation of wanting to make love to him???
- November 4th, 2009, 04:11 pm
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There are two risks here, think about them both before you act..

Are you prepared to lose a friend if all goes wrong?
If all goes well.. Would you be okay with being just a friend with benefits?

If you just wanted to shake the bed.. then ignore the above!
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Have you had any inclination that he might be interested? Try dropping some hints that are not too strong and get a feeling for it. I don't think it would turn him off, he'll probably be flattered and with any luck he's thought about the same himself.
- November 4th, 2009, 04:18 pm
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Personally, I'd be weirded out if any woman brought this up in a conversation with me out of the blue. I think actions speak louder than words anyways. I'd say initiate more body contact, hugs, touches. Invade his personal space a little more. If he keeps his distance; then, he might not be up to the idea (unless he's shy). If he's comfortable with you in his intimate space, then he's probably willing to progress...
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Hello. CaptCrunch23. I've known him since high school (almost 25 years). So, we will always be friends. He's not seeing anyone right now. I want to be his lady not a fwb.

Hello. Mokkesofie. We have joked about it a lot. Yes, we were both sober. I guess I'm scared because I don't want anything to go wrong.
- November 4th, 2009, 04:43 pm
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Help me understand why would a guy get weirded out KungFuFtr?

Thanks for all the wonderful suggestions so far you guys.
- November 4th, 2009, 04:48 pm
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KungFuFtr wrote :
Personally, I'd be weirded out if any woman brought this up in a conversation with me out of the blue
Wanna fool around?
- November 4th, 2009, 04:49 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
Wanna fool around?
Dang, I was just going to say something like that
- November 4th, 2009, 04:51 pm
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Well, if you want to be his lady.. I suggest discussing that topic with him first.. Imo a dating relationship needs to be happen before you have the sex talk.

Sex first will only complicate things. which is why I still stand by my original post.
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Chameleon wrote :
Help me understand why would a guy get weirded out KungFuFtr?

Thanks for all the wonderful suggestions so far you guys.
Do you have any other guy friends.. what if one of them you weren't attracted to, asked you to have sex! Wouldn't you be a little weired out?
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