This is strangely familiar to me.

She is not crazy, but she's clearly not right for you. What she is, is she's afraid. She's afraid of success, but at the same time, she's afraid of change. She doesn't know what "success" really means, but its obviously not what she's comfortable with. She's comfortable with the city because that is what she knows. However, at the same time, she's not succeeding in the city but she's afraid to change the situation to succeed because she's deathly afraid of handling the change.

I dated someone like this. I knew her for many years and when we dated, it was the happiest i've ever seen her. Our relationship ended because she did not want to change. She was afraid to leave her comfort zone, even though her comfort zone was clearly toxic and damaging to her. Her comfort zone and me did not mesh. She didn't know any better and the unknown outside the toxic zone scared her more than the current situation.

Its her, its not you. You are not crazy, but she has to be brave enough to change her situation if you two are going to date successfully. Something that is so simple for you, is unfathomable to her. There is no way for you to understand this fully. To you, it makes no sense whatsoever, but to her, it is a vast chasm full of fear and despair.