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Hi guys,

I think we've all heard and laughed at the purportedly stereotype that in relationships the gals are passionate and see the rules as:
  1. The woman is always right
  2. The guys is wrong
  3. If in doubt, see rule 1 (or 2)
Well I have a VERY passionate gal that seems to adhere to this philosophy. I find that tough to deal with. I'd be happy to compromise in situations, but I don't want to be pushed around and I want my well considered and reasonable position(s) appreciated.

OTOH... people keep on referring to this philosophy so it must be common and guys must be finding ways to deal with it. I'm just wondering how other guys deal with this.

Please share.... :-)
- November 1st, 2009, 08:46 pm
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<-----Not a guy. Also not always right.

And, I hate to quote charlatans but everybody gets something right sometime so: Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

Pick your battles.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:59 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
<-----Not a guy. Also not always right.

And, I hate to quote charlatans but everybody gets something right sometime so: Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

Pick your battles.
+1 Totally agree.
- November 1st, 2009, 09:03 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?
Also agreeing with this!

By the way, I'll bet you're "right" about more things than you're acknowledging... it's just that you notice more when she stands up to you for her position, and aren't being fawned over by an "of course you're right honey!" response when she agrees with you.

When you're alone you can be "right" 100% of the time. When you're part of a couple, you have to compromise or realize you're not always going to be the one who's "right." So would you rather be alone and right, or part of a couple and realize that you're not always right? A much longer way of saying "Would you rather be right or would you rahter be happy?"
- November 1st, 2009, 09:33 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
<-----Not a guy. Also not always right.

And, I hate to quote charlatans but everybody gets something right sometime so: Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

Pick your battles.
Indulging someone who insists on always being right or having their own way may smooth the road a little in the short run....but it won't make you happy in the long run. Regarding 'picking your battles'....that's fine if a relationship is already on somewhat of an equitable footing. However, some people are used to getting their own way and will make anything that ever stands in their way a battle.
- November 1st, 2009, 09:47 pm
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Part of being a couple is being respected which includes even a passionate gal allowing you to hold your view regardless if she agrees or not.

There will always be those that will huff and puff their view until you "agree" or surrender to their way of thinking. You can make steps to seek compromise though or in some cases just "agree to disagree".

Just try to look at issues like this as one part of how you get along as a couple...how greatly does it effect your relationship? Sometimes issues like this just need to be discussed and other times they become dealbreakers if one just seeks to walk over the other.

Bottom line...no one is right all of the time and those that seek others to validate this opinion will always tick off someone or be disappointed.
- November 1st, 2009, 10:46 pm
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the maxim reflects the different communication goals men and women have, if you ask me.
- November 1st, 2009, 11:41 pm
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i hate to disagree with the troika of LBMM, BEA and WW- especially the first two...

BUT... if i were with a lady and was always wrong, i would not be with her very long.

compromise is essential when dealing with the feelings, longings and beliefs of two people in a relationship. i get the feeling from the OP that all of the compromise is going one way.

i would not tolerate that.
- November 1st, 2009, 11:50 pm
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There is a pecking order in the Hen House you have the Rooster, who is Da Boss and you have La Hen's who lay the eggs. But there can only be one who is Da Boss and he rules the roost.

Your problem is not you, it the Hen she has very little respect for men in general and you in particular. She rules the roost and it's her way or the highway!

If you have not won her over in bed then you have several choices smack upside of her head, tell her that she is a disrespectful horses arse and leave.

The last choice is to sit down with her and discuss your feelings and see her response and then say good bye! If she cares she will call, if nor there are other Hen Houses!

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Harvey7 wrote :
There is a pecking order in the Hen House you have the Rooster, who is Da Boss and you have La Hen's who lay the eggs. But there can only be one who is Da Boss and he rules the roost.
But she rules the rooster.
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:11 am
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