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Now that I already have kids, I view marriage as optional, and only with a prenuptial agreement. Commitment happens in the heart. If for financial reasons getting married made sense, I would marry again. Or if my SO really wanted to. But it is not something that would be a deal breaker for me.

I don't regret having been married, and I still view my parents' marriage of 56+ years that ended when they both died within 3 months of each other to be an ideal. I do want someone to grow old with, but whether or not we are married won't be that big of a deal to me as long as our hearts are on the same page.
- September 27th, 2009, 10:07 pm
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Been married and divorced twice. Regret them? ...no.

I do still believe in marriage, I'm just beginning to think that it doesn't believe in me anymore.
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- September 28th, 2009, 11:52 am
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I absolutely believe in marriage. My marriage was horrible. I was married to the same man for 15 years and that was probably 14 years too long (stupidity on my part). While I don't like the person that my ex became, I don't regret marrying him because I wouldn't have the great children that I have. I would have some other great children - I love the ones I got.

I hope I'm lucky enough again to find someone to fall in love with and marry. But honestly if I don't get married again that will be fine too. At this point in my life I am just hoping for someone to love.
- September 28th, 2009, 12:22 pm
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :

If you were previously married and went through a divorce -- would you marry again?

Do you regret having married your previous wife / husband?

Any other views or ideas about this topic?
Sure , if I met the right person, of course.
I don't regret marrying my previous wife. There were some very good times we shared and we both respect each other. We know that we are both good parents to our son.

I can easily understand how you can get jaded, though... I have friends who went through some really brutal divorces(cheating/affairs, etc)
Unless you walk a mile in someone's shoes, you can't know what their life was like.
- September 28th, 2009, 12:44 pm
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I am apprehensive about marriage and I have a hard time trusting men.

I am not sure marriage is the right path for me.

The absolutely worst moment in my life was when I realized my ex-husband had been cheating on me and I felt the rug of my marriage being pulled out from under my feet. I adored and worshipped my husband and loved what I thought was our stable life we'd built through experiences together, hard work and fun.

Even though I forgave him for the affair and we worked (unsuccessfully) on reconciling for 3 more years I was devastated. My heart imploded I am still feeling the after-shock reverberations 5 years and 2 men later.

I divorced him, while he protested.

Sometimes I think I am fine but other times I realize I'm still not quite.
- September 28th, 2009, 01:09 pm
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I have and always will believe in marriage.

It was the divorce that tore my heart apart.

I have no idea what this means for the future. I guess if / when he arrives, I'll know.
- September 28th, 2009, 05:11 pm
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lynnlikes wrote :
I am one of those terribly romatic women that wants a real soul mate and lover. I believe in marriage because my parents have had a wonderful marriage of over 60 years. They are still silly in love today. However, I am independent and have been single for 12 years. It appears that marriage may be a better deal if you are a man. Many of the men that I have met want to be "tacken care of" rather than be a partner in a relationship. One man asked me if I could cook. I replied that I enjoy cooking but rarely have the time. His next response was......."Will you cook for me?" That's not my idea of a partnership marriage.
I hate it when man asks me if I cook especially on a first date.
- September 28th, 2009, 06:03 pm
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I absolutely do still believe in marriage, especially if it's with the right person. My first marriage was with the wrong person. I acknowledged that I made many mistakes which contributed to my failed marriage; I can't blame the institution of marriage for that.
- September 29th, 2009, 05:42 pm
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tjlpd wrote :
I hate it when man asks me if I cook especially on a first date.
It's funny. I like to cook. So much, in fact, I want a guy who truly appreciates my cooking, so this would not bother me at all.
- September 29th, 2009, 06:00 pm
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I don't regret having married my ex husband; I regret that I 'stayed' 'stuck' in it for as long as I did.

Yes, I believe in marriage--a conscious partnership where each of us is committed to mutually healing one another.
- September 29th, 2009, 06:02 pm
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