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What is the proper etiquette on a dinner date when your date finishes her dinner while you still have a good bit of food left? Do I continue eating my meal or because she has finished do I push my plate aside?
- November 7th, 2009, 06:04 am
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I don't know what the proper ettiquette is, but...

I'm a really slow eater, even slower if I'm having a conversation while I'm eating. If I stopped when the other party was finished, I'd often leaving the restaurant hungry but with a lot of food. I usually just say, "I'm sorry, I'm a slow eater," and go into the story of how we'd always made mealtimes at university last as long as possible so that we didn't have to study...and then I'd go home for breaks and my family of very fast eaters would lose patience with me and leave me at the table when they were done.

If I was your date, I'd want you to enjoy yourself...for you to eat as much as you'd like. Hopefully there'd be no rush to finish the meal, so...
- November 7th, 2009, 06:18 am
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You finish your meal. (She had the poor manners to rush a meal, or a date.)

Unless the situation was known (like she had previously announced she had to return to the office, get on a airplane, etc), food, or a date, are to be enjoyed leisurely and not rushed.
- November 7th, 2009, 06:36 am
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You continue eating. The faster eater waits.

I'm a fast eater. But I've been blind sided by "partial eaters". Men who only eat part of their meal. One memorable time ... I asked "is your food OK? Did you enjoy this?" (I was treating). He responded: "Oh yes. I'm done. Mama always said I eat like a bird!"

And you know what? He was, indeed, done.

But let's face it, the longer you live alone, the less likely you are to remember everything about group table manners ... it takes practice.

I can tolerate almost anything except eating with mouth open ... smacking food while eating ... being rude to wait staff. Those are deal breakers.

Well ... don't comment on what Mama says. I'm sure she's a fine lady ... but I don't want to think about her serving you food and patting you on the belly while you are trying to kiss me.

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- November 7th, 2009, 06:59 am
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Continue eating - but keep her talking while you finish with some short questions that need lengthy answers.
- November 7th, 2009, 08:03 am
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If there's some time pressure -- someone has to leave, or you're going on to a movie or something -- get a doggy bag. Otherwise just eat at your normal pace. A fast eater is probably used to waiting for others. She can always order something more if she wants.

You could also take the opportunity to offer her a bite of your food ... get into that whole flirty share-my-food thing!
- November 7th, 2009, 08:30 am
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This situation doesn't usually happen but it did last night and I kept on eating. But it got me thinking, was I being rude. So thanks to all, particularly the girls (since that is who I date ).
- November 7th, 2009, 08:56 am
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Some women like watching guys eat. From personal experience..at the very least I hope she'll tell me if I got spinach stuck between my teeth.
- November 7th, 2009, 08:58 am
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Faira wrote :
I'm a really slow eater, even slower if I'm having a conversation while I'm eating. If I stopped when the other party was finished, I'd often leaving the restaurant hungry but with a lot of food.
We must go to dinner one of these days and see which of us is the slowest eater...lol! I'm often the last one finished as well...

People just eat at different paces. And, sometimes one person orders more food than the other so needs more (or less) time to eat his or her meal. Unless someone is wolfing his or her food down, though, it is not poor manners to finish first (or last). It is bad manners, on the other hand, to be impatient with someone for taking longer to finish than you did or to make them feel uncomfortable for taking longer. If you are enjoying yourselves together and having an interesting conversation, then it's not even noticeable who finishes first or last (if there is dead silence, though, and the other person is just sitting there watching you eat for an extended period of time, it's probably time to call it an evening and ask for a doggie bag...lol).
- November 7th, 2009, 10:20 am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
What is the proper etiquette on a dinner date when your date finishes her dinner while you still have a good bit of food left? Do I continue eating my meal or because she has finished do I push my plate aside?
Finish your meal....and guard your plate.
- November 7th, 2009, 11:07 am
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