Thanks for bringing this up. I had similar reaction to his questions in that I thought he may be asking me whether I prefer to be with a man who acts in a traditional protector/provider role, or whether I am the feminist/independent type who would be offended if a man opened a door for me or paid for a date. It can be kind of confusing for men nowadays, especially since he can read from my profile that I am an attorney, and probably make decent money. I didn't take his reference to being his equal literally. Of course, I am his equal. He doesn't have the power to make me his equal or take it away.

As for his second question, I thought that he may be asking me if I feel sexier in bed/more turned on in bed with a man that acts in the traditional protector/provider role or with a man that treats me like one of the guys. My answer to this would be the former. If I wanted to be treated like a pal, I would call one of my girlfriends.

If my interpretations of his questions are way off base, and if he is really asking me to choose between being cherished and being his equal as if he has a choice in the matter, then I think he is truly asinine.

Now, I guess I can either give him the benefit of the doubt, and respond to his questions as I have interpreted them, or I can close because either way, I think he asked me these questions too early, and has scared me a bit.