New to this so really not sure what to think (was married for 13 yrs.) Meet this women about a month ago on e-harmony. We live a distance apart so we haven't actually met yet but had planned on it. Anyway the first 7 days she would call and text constantly and we would spend at least 2 hours or more on the phone each time which was cool. Then something changed and not really sure why? She called late one night and I didn't answer and since then the calling and texting have come to a very slow and very intermittent pace with me now being the one to make first contact. I have asked her on one occasions if she still wanted to pursue this and if she felt comfortable with it and she said yes but with the lack of communication I don't know. A few examples of what she now does is she will text and say can I call you tomorrow and then she never does or shell say call me and then I do and she doesn't answer the phone. Last night for example we texted and I said can we talk instead of texting she said yes so I called her about twenty minutes later and she didn't answer so I texted her saying goodnight and to have a good day and still haven't heard back from her yet before she would reply fairly quickly. I'm starting to feel that if I try to communicate I'll seem needy etc. It's just that when I do reach her she is like yes lets meet and I'm glad to hear from you. I know and understand people get busy and life gets hectic but if it's not something you want just come out and say it. I don't like games but at the same time I'm really interested in her and don't want to quit without truly knowing. Anyway any information or insights would be welcome.

I think its a new trend. I currently have 44 open communications on e-harmony in various stages of communication. It seems as though, instead of being nice and closing the communication when they find a problem, they are more prone to just avoid things altogether.

I nudge them when the option comes up because to me, until they close the communication, it means that they are still potentially interested.

Getting to the call stage and then getting treated like that prompts ME to close the communication. They get one last chance to send a message if they want to, they never do, and I dont care.

I dont want some passive agressive crap like that in my life anyways.