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Double dating – archeological relationship relic or fabulous modern-day dating tool? Contrary to what you might think, double dating can be a valuable resource in the savvy single’s dating arsenal. After all, the merits are many. They can help create a comfortable environment for shy singles to get to know one another. They can help you find committed couples whose relationships you’d like to eventually emulate. Or they can just be an opportunity to connect with people you both enjoy.
Tip #1: Choose Your Couple Wisely
While double dating can be a lot of fun, it's important to choose the couple you double date with wisely. For example, you won’t want to choose a couple known for being competitive (you know the ones!) After all, a night of one-up-manship is both tedious and tacky.
Instead, select a couple whose relationship you admire. Perhaps even one you'd like to emulate in your own. Or choose a couple whose individual company you both enjoy.
By spending time around people whose relationships are healthy and happy, you're all the more likely to mirror that behavior in your own relationship. Plus, happy individuals make for happy couples. And happy couples are so much more fun to be around than dysfunctional ones!
Tip #2: Choose a Group-Friendly Activity
When double dating, it's important to choose a group-friendly activity, i.e. one that engages the entire group in conversation and allows for interaction. For example, a movie is not the best group activity since the focus is not on each other but on an external source of entertainment.
However, dinner and a movie can be a fantastic double date because it allows you time to talk and share as well as time to enjoy the entertainment.
Other great group activities include bowling, taking a cooking or dance class, and/or going on a picnic in the park. Regardless of what activity you select, make sure it's in an environment that doesn't compete with the evening’s entertainment or require you to have to shout to be heard.
Tip #3: Engage Everyone in Conversation
While the ritual of dating is all about getting to know the person you're on a date with, the purpose of a double date is to create a fun group dynamic. Therefore, it's important to engage everyone on the date in conversation. This can be particularly challenging if the majority of the group shares a mutual interest or activity (i.e. if you're coworkers, in the same profession, or belong to a particular club or association) while one member does not.
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