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A great romantic relationship can be one of life's purest pleasures. As you discover singles that share your values and attitudes, there is nothing quite like meeting and creating a loving mutual connection. But the most rewarding long-term relationships come from partners who date with a sense of purpose. They want to have fun and share themselves, but they also want to make sure that they are headed in a successful direction.
Date slowly.
It sounds so simple and yet singles often feel that they are on a deadline to launch into a deep and connected relationship. One Kansas State study determined if a couple will date at least two years before marriage; the chances of that marriage being successful are significantly higher. Dating slowly is often a very difficult task. Physical passion can easily drive couples into a serious relationship long before they are emotionally ready. Once these connections have been made, it is very difficult to make dispassionate decisions about whether the relationship is working and should be continued. Sometimes older singles feel that they cannot afford to waste time and move slowly. The truth is that an unhappy relationship is a thousand times worse than no relationship at all. If you want the relationship to have a chance at long term success -take it slow and easy.
Date in a wide variety of activities and situations. Many people end up married with only a narrow base of shared experience. For example, a new couple that lives 400 hundred miles apart has limited time to see each other. Whenever they can get together, it feels much more like a vacation than real life. He flies in for a long weekend or they meet in a resort town somewhere in the middle. This time spent together makes for romantic memories and great passion, but it doesn't tell either person much about how the other will react when balancing the checkbook or creeping their way through rush hour traffic. It is vital that couples make time for everyday experiences. They have to actively spend time together enduring mundane stress. This allows them to REALLY know whom they are dating.
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