Why a Man Settles Down with One Woman and Not Another

Have you ever had a great guy break up with you because he was "just not ready for a relationship" and the next thing you know, he's dating someone else and making wedding plans? If this sounds familiar, it doesn't have to happen again! Brought to you by Christian Carter

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Have you ever had a great guy break up with you because he was “just not ready for a relationship,” and the next thing you know, he’s dating someone else and making wedding plans? Ouch.

If you’re like lots of women, after the pain and shock, you wondered what the heck happened, and if you could have done something differently. There are two important things you need to know that can instantly create positive changes in your love life and bring out the vibrant woman inside you that makes a man want to be in love with you forever.

#1: Why A Man Chooses One Woman Over Another

Why does a man open up to one woman and explore a relationship with her, and not do that with other women that he might have been close to or physical with? Here’s the simple truth: attraction is largely subconscious. It's like an instant attraction “trip-wire” is sprung when a man first meets a woman. So if a man can feel instantly attracted to a woman, what sets one woman apart from another? One reason is unpredictability. Women who create intense attraction with men often act in ways that are completely unpredictable.

Do you have any seemingly “normal” friends who are with a guy or girl who is totally psycho and out of control? A huge part of what attracts people, even in light of “crazy” behavior, is unpredictability. The contrast of ups and downs are unbelievably exciting and attractive to a man. In fact, they're so attractive that men are often willing to look past all kinds of things they'd normally run from just experience more of the mystery, intrigue and attraction. Am I suggesting that you turn into a psycho-needy, bunny-boiling-stalker?

No way.

If you want to create intense attraction between you and a man and keep him fantasizing about you and dying just to be around you, then there's something to learn here about the intense attraction that these women (and men) create when they're unpredictable.

Luckily, you can be unpredictable in a healthy and constructive way.

If you interact with a man in a way that I call “playfully unpredictable,” it will create intense attraction, and more importantly a positive emotional experience for him, and that will make him want to be with you for the long term.

#2: The first thing a man notices about a woman that makes him think he could get serious with her

Surprisingly, men aren't as shallow as you might believe. Looking over the results of studies done by psychologists over the last 10 to 15 years, there's a consistent “theme” with men who entered into serious relationships or marriage. What do you think really got them interested in their girlfriends, wives?

No, it wasn’t just her hair, her body, etc.

The most common feature men attributed their attraction and desire to be with a woman in the long-term was a specific quality of her personality. Now, this isn’t a news flash, but it's not just about personality. More specifically, it's about the experience that a woman's personality creates when a man is around her and how she makes him feel. A woman's beauty can attract a man, but it's her personality that makes the man feel special and different and that will interest him for the long-term.

So, how do you create the kind of experience that will have him wanting to settle down with you? By creating “Intellectual Attraction.” If man feels a deep level of intellectual attraction to you, he will simply want to spend time with and commit to you.

In my eBook Catch Him & Keep Him, I share step-by-step ways to create the kind of experiences that build intellectual attraction. Once you start using these “natural” ways to create attraction and experiences with men, it will feel as comfortable and as natural as anything you've ever done. You have to power to change your love life and be the one he chooses to settle down with.

Go here and get all the details: catchhimandkeephim.com

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Author, “Catch Him & Keep Him”

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