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What Men Really Think About your Body

Wondering if he really thinks your butt looks big in those pants? Wondering if the thinks your butt looks big, period? Find out what guys really think of your body here. (Hint: you are being too hard on yourself!)

Have you ever heard the saying…

“On the wedding day, the bride is thinking of all the ways she can change the groom, and he is thinking of all the ways he can keep the bride exactly as she is right now”?

Funny? Not especially. True? As a man I don’t know about the first part, but most men would love for their bride to always be as beautiful as she is the day of their wedding. Of course, we’re realistic about the situation. Time changes us all, and I know that 55 is going to look different than 30 for both of us.

When it comes to the physical form of our significant others, what do men expect? What do we want? What do we care about, and what doesn’t matter to us at all?

I’m only one man. Granted, I read what thousands of men post each week on eHarmony’s discussion boards, but I can only give you what I discern to be the conventional wisdom amongst my brothers. There are exceptions to EVERYTHING. What we’re not talking about here is the male “ideal.” That whole concept muddies the water because of the wide range of women that create lust in men. Without a doubt men are attracted to Keira Knightly, who is approximately 5′ 7″ and 110 pounds. But most men don’t need a model to feel turned-on. They don’t need a perfect Vogue-magazine body to feel the animal attraction that is so important to a relationship.

Staying alluring and attractive isn’t some mega-complicated routine that has to consume hours of time. In fact, it boils down to two things. If you attend to these two things you will remain sexy, attractive, and desirable by men for the rest of your days.

The Two Elements of Your Appearance That Really Matter

1. Keep Your Figure

Notice that I didn’t write “Stay thin.” That’s because we don’t want you to be skinny. Men want a woman who has a figure – who fills a dress with curves and a feminine form. Of course to a large degree your size is determined by genetics. Some people are naturally thin. Some are naturally larger. So, it may be practically impossible for you to become thin, no matter how good your discipline or intentions. But having a “figure” – a certain proportion between your hips, waist, and bust – is most likely within reach (even if it is hard work getting there).

Honestly, that’s what we’re interested in. Many women quite rightly point out that Marilyn Monroe was a size 12 (or 16 depending on who you ask) and that no one thought she was overweight. This is, of course, completely true and makes the point that proportionality creates the feminine form in the mind of a man.

2. Maintain a Sense of Style

Books have been written about style, and I’m no expert in women’s fashion. But let me tell you what I saw at lunch today, to illustrate my point. I went to a local deli to get a sandwich, and in line with me were a woman and her pre-teen son.

The mom had on a simple skirt, and wore shoes with a slight heel. She wore a thin sweater, with a scarf, and a nice shade of red lipstick. Her hair was pulled back. I remember glancing at her and thinking, “Wow, that woman really looks put together.” In retrospect, what she had on was very simple. It didn’t look expensive. It didn’t look like an outfit that was purchased to go together. It just seemed like she put some effort into her appearance, and it was, to use a word I can scarcely define, stylish.

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