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It’s a topic that has been hotly debated for the past 30 years. As more and more women erased “homemaker” from their job description, the gender roles have blurred and morphed, making it hard to know what women expect of us. In such a fast-changing society many of the rules we were taught as boys seem to be all wrong. Is it fair to expect that a woman will set aside her career aspirations for family? Is it selfish to expect time away from your partner to maintain male relationships? Do women really want a sensitive man? It can be very confusing.
So what are eHarmony women looking for in a man?
A Verbally Intimate Man
You just knew this would be in the top five didn’t you? It’s true, women want a man who will talk about what is going on inside his head and heart. They want a man who won’t bottle things up or run away when times are tough. They know that the healthy thing to do is to share, and at the very least, let your partner know what you’re going through, even if there is seemingly little they can do. The important addendum to this is that eHarmony women don’t want a man who is weak spirited. This means that sharing your feelings is great…bursting into tears when problems arise is bad. In fact, while tears are completely appropriate on some occasions, most women want a man who is likely to be less “emotional” than they are, a very important distinction when getting ready to discuss your emotional past.
An Honest Man
Honesty is consistently rated as one of the most important traits that eHarmony women want in a soul mate. Why is that? Because, almost every single woman in eHarmony (and in the world at large) has been lied to by a man they loved. Before you assume that you are honest, take a moment and consider all the statements you’ve made, all the descriptions you’ve written during your eHarmony process. Are you being consistent? Can you stand behind everything you’ve said? Women have learned to look for subtle inconsistencies during the “getting-to-know-you” stage. They know that this is the best way to anticipate whether you will be honest in big important issues, by examining how you handle small things. Make sure you’re on the level.
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