What an Emotionally Mature Man Looks Like

Trying to build a relationship with an emotionally immature guy is like trying to build a house out of cards. Read on for the 5 telltale signs of an emotionally mature man. Brought to you by Christian Carter

What an Emotionally Mature Man Looks Like
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Have you ever dated a great guy who seems like he’s got “it all together,” only to find out weeks or months later that he’s really more of a boy than a man? If so, you know trying to build a relationship with an emotionally immature guy is like trying to build a house out of cards. Having a fulfilling, honest, loving long-term relationship is hard enough with two grown-ups. If one partner isn’t capable of really showing up, it won’t work

Wouldn’t it be great if you could identify the guys who were mature enough to be a good partner before wasting a bunch of time and getting physically and emotionally involved? So let me ask you. Do you know what an emotionally mature man look like? How does he act? How does he respond to conflict?

Here are 5 telltale signs of an emotionally mature man.


1) He’s Decisive

 

Have you met guys who just can’t seem to make a decision? They waffle, they stress, they can’t seem to make up their minds. The emotionally mature guy has no problems making decisions about life, relationships and commitments without wavering or stressing out. He’s clear about wanting to be with you and he’s clear about what he wants with a woman and in a relationship. He doesn’t go “hot and cold.”


2) He Takes Responsibility

 

If you hear a man complaining about things in his life, blaming others and generally experiencing a lack of control, he’s not just unlucky, he’s lacking maturity. The mature man is nobody’s victim. He takes responsibility for his actions. You’ll rarely see him whine, and he doesn’t blame others when things go wrong. Instead he’s in service to making things right.


3) He Has a Higher Purpose

 

You know those guys who are absolutely passionate about their work or their cause? This is a sign that they’re more emotionally mature than the guys whose lives revolve solely around themselves. The mature man has a purpose in life greater than himself. If you see that a man is committed to a larger purpose, it’s a safe bet that he’s done “the work.”


4) He Has Close Relationships

 

The best true signal of how a man will handle his relationship with you is how he relates to others he’s closest to. Look at his relationships. What are his friendships like? Sure he has “buddies,” but does he have intimate friendships? The mature man is comfortable being truly close and open with others in his life.


5) He’s Capable of Expressing Himself

A mature man doesn’t just stuff his feelings down inside. He doesn’t always come right out and say it, but he can explain his feelings, his choices, and his likes and dislikes. If he can’t express what he’s thinking, or gets frustrated, irritated, or mad at you for wanting to communicate and share feelings, then you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man.

The mature man can express what’s going on in his heart and mind without outbursts or withdrawal. If you seem to attract emotionally immature guys, pay attention to the signs of a mature man so you can avoid repeating the pattern.

When you get involved with an immature guy, and try to deal with and make things work with him, your life will get messy and you’ll start acting immature as well. Immaturity is contagious. If you pay attention, you will quickly and easily begin to see the signs of emotional maturity (and also the LACK of those signs) so you can make the best possible choice for yourself.

You deserve a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship with a man who’s ready and willing to do his part in creating a great relationship. He should be able to “show up” with you.

I’ve helped thousands of women - single and in relationships - understand how to identify the RIGHT man and grow a relationship into a loving and lasting love affair.


I’ll talk with you again soon, and Best of luck in Life and in Love.


Your Friend,


Christian Carter
Author, Catch Him & Keep Him

 

P. S. - For more free tips on creating the experiences that will help a man see you as the one woman he wants to be with, and to make the process of connecting and moving into a relationship feel effortless for you both… go here and check out my free emails and tips: catchhimandkeephim.com

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More typical fortune cookie advice. I wonder what percentage of the population has all the traits listed. It must be a small number.

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To me an emotionally mature man is reasonably patient, he knows how to delay gratification. He is unselfish, and he can put up with a reasonable amount of imperfection in his partner.

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[QUOTE=Tinderbox;506676]Although this article had a couple of good points, I found it to be weak and lacking. Where is recognition of the following: Friends are fine, but what about his relationship with his parents and family? What is your judgment of his character? Have you caught him lying about anything and does he think it's okay to lie? How has he treated women in his past relationships and how does he refer to them now? I see the author included "passionate about their work or their cause" as being important and perhaps that's desirable for workaholic activists. But for the rest of us, as long as he's employed then the only passion that's really important to a relationship is his passion for you and his willingness to spend time maintaining and deepening your relationship. Has he been divorced, and why? Does he have children, and regardless of legal custody is he still their everyday father or did he move away from them? How does he treat the elderly, children, animals, the weak? Is he protective or does he avoid confrontation at all costs? Is he calm and calming, or is he mercurial, abusive, or panicky under stress? Is he financially responsible or a spendthrift? Is he moderate in his pleasures or does he overdo it on alchohol or staying out, childish pastimes, etc? Does he try to understand your interests even if he doesn't share them? Is he selfless or self-centered? Does he stand up for what's right? Does he even have a moral sense that he can verbalize? What is it based on? On how he was taught and what he has learned from life, or simply how he feels today? Does he regularly take steps to improve his mind, body, and spirit, or does he waste his free time in mindless pursuits? And for those who are religiously inclined, does he have a relationship with God or a spiritual life? Those are just a few things off the top of my head. And while there is some male/female overlap in these characteristics, this is geared towards distinguishing MEN from merely males. I ask these things of myself, and if/when I have a daughter I'll make sure she knows how to keep these things in mind when evaluating others who want to be a part of her life.[/QUOTE] You saved me with what you said from the article...I thought I was hopeless, but from your perspective I'm quite mature and always growing and striving to be better and more mature whils still staying in touch with my inner playful child's spirit! Thanks so much for writing all you did!
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