Single Women: 7 Strategies for Meeting Mr. Right

While many single women truly enjoy living the single life, others are ready to find Mr. Right and begin a new chapter in the story of their lives! Here are seven tips to lead you in that direction.

Single Women: Strategies for Meeting Mr. Right
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While many single women truly enjoy living the single life, others are ready to find Mr. Right and begin a new chapter in the story of their lives.

 

For all of you single women, here are 7 strategies for meeting Mr. Right.

 


1. Don’t Wait for Him to Come to You

Although it would be nice, it’s highly unlikely that a gorgeous, well-mannered, high-paid and sensitive man is going to knock on your door in the next few seconds and introduce himself to you. If you want to find that man, you’re going to have to get out there and look for him! Don’t expect too much right away, but put yourself in a position to meet people and get to know them.

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2. Expect to Fall Short a Few Times

When you’re out there meeting guys and getting to know them, chances are you will meet a few that aren’t right for you. This can often lead to disappointment. All single women should understand that this isn’t failure – its one step closer to Mr. Right. Don’t expect to find your soul mate on the first night – it will most likely take some time. Expect to fall short a few times and don’t be too disappointed when you do.

3. Spend Some Time Thinking about What You Want

When you’re searching for Mr. Right, it’s important to know what you’re looking for. While you’ve probably already spent some time considering Mr. Right’s physical attributes, what would he enjoy? What would his favorite kind of music be? Is he a funny guy?

When you think about the things he would enjoy or appreciate, you may determine where to find him. Perhaps your Mr. Right is a fan of jazz – maybe visiting some cozy jazz clubs would lead you to him. By knowing what you’re looking for, you’ll determine how to find him.

4. Work on Your Confidence

If you are a single women with low self confidence, you’re going to have a difficult time meeting anyone – let alone Mr. Right. Men find women with confidence extremely attractive. Even if you don’t look like a supermodel, be confident with who you are and appear comfortable in your skin. If you accept and love yourself for who you are, so will Mr. Right when you find him!

5. Accentuate What Is Wonderful about You

Most single women -- or any women -- aren’t 100% happy with their bodies; they may want a smaller butt, plumper lips or longer hair. The truth is that no one is perfect and most men don’t want their women to look like celebrities or supermodels. Every woman is beautiful and you should accentuate what is beautiful and wonderful about you. Men enjoy it when their women look great – but not overdone. Simply play up your best features and stay confident!

6. Don’t Be Afraid to Approach Him

If you’ve had your eye on a hunky guy across the room for a while but he’s not walking over, don’t be afraid to approach him. Read the signs first, of course – he’s looking at you and smiling, there is no woman with him, etc.

When the coast is clear, walk up to him and say hello. Ask him to dance or ask if you can sit down. Introduce yourself, talk a bit, then tell him it was nice to meet him and go back to your chair. The next move will be up to him.

7. Above All – Be Who You Are

You’re staring across the table at a man with the most gorgeous and piercing eyes you’ve ever seen. It’s times like this when it can be easy to compromise who you are in an effort to keep things going forward. While it can be difficult to do, you should always be who you are. Don’t compromise your beliefs, your goals, or yourself at all in an attempt to find Mr. Right. When it truly is Mr. Right, all you will need to be is who you are.

Remember to be patient and realize that he will come along – probably when you least expect it and when you’re in the perfect position to be swept off your feet.

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My favorite chapter in my new book, Confessions of a Single Woman, is called The Chase. And trust me, after much reading, research, and personal experience, I never chase a man. If he really wants you he will move heaven and earth to get you:)
Totally agree. I too have chased too many a man. But where does expressing your interest end and chasing begin?
- December 20, 2009 10:25 PM

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I'm a 32 year old man andI don't mind women coming up to say hello, but I wouldn't take it any further. It makes me think they are too desperate because they are actually trying to meetme. I prefer to meet someone naturally. So this advice wouldn't workon me, sorry girls. Also, once again it is dissapointing to see the money/rich thing mentioned in the ideal description part, this is quite a turnoff for men. It doesn't seem like women are genuine when they talk about money and it would be nice if a woman liked us for us and not our money.
Huh? Naturally? How could a woman introducing herself to you not be natural? Let's say there is only one bar stool left at your favorite hangout, would you be turned off if you end up sitting next to a woman and she says "hello, my name is..." first? I'm just really confused by this because I'm such an outgoing person and saying hello and introducing yourself to people seems polite.
- December 20, 2009 10:19 PM

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why do we get turned down for that the most?? It should be a two-way street. That we should be respected just as much for making the first move without looking desperate as they should. That's where the double standard of dating comes in for me.
[LEFT] hahaha wow that's just SO ignorant. Guys ARE turned down for appearing desperate. In fact, I would wager that they get turned down FAR MORE than women do. Why? Statistics. In my personal experience, the vast majority of women refuse to approach a guy. Likewise, the vast majority of guys [I]must[/I] make approaches, or risk forever remaining single. There are exceptions, to be sure, but this is the general rule. Furthermore, the vast majority of guys, in my experience, are not very good at making cold approaches. They give off a "creepy" or "desperate" vibe and are promptly forgotten. This brings me to your other question: [/LEFT]
But when the guy makes the first move, we go beyond being just friends at that point, even though I am still at the just friends stage...why is that???
It's because you never remember the "creepy" guys who tried to make a move and failed. You DO, however, remember all of YOUR personal rejections. Thus, it appears to you that women are disadvantaged because you (generally) forget the guys you've rejected, but remember EVERY guy that rejects you. It's just human nature - we pay more attention to what we want than what we have no interest in. Nonetheless, there is NO double standard on this point: Cold approaches are very difficult to pull off without sub-communicating some level of desperation. Unless you practice and perfect your approach, odds are that you will give off a wrong "vibe." If you give off a desperate vibe, you will probably get rejected. Rejection does not discriminate on the basis of gender.
- December 20, 2009 09:52 PM

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