Is Your Friend Really a "Frenemy"?

Beware of the frenemy!!!

I unfortunately had one for 22 years, yes I know that was a very long time.

However frenemies have a way of wearing many faces and you will question yourself, if this person is really your friend.

Eventually, the frenemy face will appear more and more and you now know something is a wrong, but again when the other face is before you, you question yourself again.

My frenemy for years always kept what I call a "Your No Better Than Me Syndrome." Everything I would do,buy, said I was going to do or buy and places I would go, she would do it right after I would without failure.

What was so crazy about it all she would then act like she was the original in it all.

If we went to and event or party and she liked my outfit, she would not compliment, but she would set up a time for us to go out again and would wear an outfit very similar to what I had on at the previous outing.

I get a new car, she would get a new car even when she was not financially equipped to get it at the time and I have witness her cars being reposessed.

I took a trip to Miami one year and she wanted to go so bad that she begged a friend to go with her at her expense on a credit card that she got to build back up her credit after having to file bankruptcy.

Then she would always come across in subtle ways as to say we are on the same level and we do, get , wear and go the same places, you are not doing anything I can't do,

It took me a minute to realize what was going on, but when I did, I never understood why her attitude was of such, because I never acted, said or implied that I ever thought I was better than her or had more than she had.

When she would get new male friends she got a new attitude and it was always a thing where she would go into these very short relationships apparently talking about me to her male friends and I can tell they were always looking at me thru jaudice eyes and there attitudes were always a bit cold and they didn't know me from a can of paint.

When she was getting married, she asked me to be in her wedding and then she was distant, secretive about her plans, vague about what she want you to wear and the day of the wedding she and her mother was very rude to me I don't know if they were that way with others.

I knew after her wedding the next frenemy act that she pulled on me she was going to be put out of my life for good, because after the wedding ordeal I had enough!

After the wedding she called me consistently with one of her other faces and I thought WOW maybe her being married will make her happy and take away her jealousy and maybe she feels great that she finally has something I don't have and got it first for a change "A HUSBAND", but boy was I wrong shortly after her good face she went back into her frenemy mode.

She and her husband and her two children went out of town to a wedding and as I alway done I called before she left to wish her a safe trip (something she has never done to me when I went out of town, in fact she would disappear about a week before I left.) and she would genearally call and say she was back or I would call to see if she made it back safely. Well this time I had called her like 5 or more times and I got no answer. Now mind you, since she had gotten married she would never call me from her home phone just on her cell phone when in route to work, the store, doctor etc.... which told me I was potrayed as the bad person once again to her husband,so she can't call me in his presence, because then he would have to wonder how bad of a person could I be if she calls me on a regular (she was wicked) Anyway I took a chance to call her on her home phone, because after trying to reach her 5 or more time on her cell phone with no answer I began to think maybe something was wrong, needless to say she answer her home phone and was in good health and all, but told me she was on another call and she would call me back and I told her don't bother.

Well, I guess she had to be sure, if what she heard me say was so, so she called me back anyway and asked me what did I say and I told her and of course I express to her why and she was having denial issues on many things and I knew it was a waste of my time at this point and those were my final words with her.

It has been about three years since I severed that toxic so-call friendship and I realized some time ago that the only friend in that relationship was me.

My advice is if it looks like a duck,walk like a duck and quack like a duck IT IS A DUCK, don't second guess your instincts.