Should you stay or should you go? If you are on the fence about whether or not your relationship is working, consider the top three reasons why couples decide to split.
“I don’t know what to do,” Jennifer said. “I like Greg a lot and we have our fun moments, but something doesn’t feel right.” Sound familiar? We hear this kind of statement on a regular basis from persons entering the foggy bog of uneasiness about their relationship. Jennifer and Greg had been dating for nearly eight months when she confessed, “I can’t tell if it’s worth it or not.” If you’ve ever wondered the same thing, we want to help you cut through the nebulous emotions and see your condition more clearly.
There are probably countless reasons why couples split, but in a study asking more than 150 dating couples who had just broken up to write an anonymous essay on “why we broke up,” three reasons appeared again and again. Desire for autonomy topped the list. Some men (27%) and many women (44%) complained of feeling trapped by their dating partner. “He was upset whenever I went out with friends,” one woman wrote, “even if I couldn’t have been with him at that time because of his obligations.” One man said, “I felt like a possession.” Most people want intimacy and connection in a dating relationship, but not at the price of reasonable freedom.
My boyfriend of 4 years out of the blue decided he needed a change he was not happy in the relationship. You dont know how that hurt and also the way he did it . It wasdnt very nice. I told him he was a coward because he is. It took me 4 months to stand up for myself. But you know what is funny. After not calling him at all for 2 1/2 weeks hes been calling none stop. Tomorrow he is coming to get his things. I dont understand when someone tells me its over then why would he come back? Games. I was in love with him and he totally disrespectedme. Tormorrow is going to be difficult we had good times together in 4 years. But its time to say good-bye.
I need feedback everyone because I'm just confused as hell. Iv'e been in a 4 month relationship and everything is perfect and were still in that "honeymoon" stage except one thing. She doesn't trust me and she feels the need to remind that to me everyday and it hurts me so much when she says that to me. She has to bring up this girl I slept with one night about 3 months before I even knew my present GF. I came clean event hough I didn't have to. I have no feelings for this girl and we have known each other for about 3 years but we slipped one night because of some drinks. So she sends me the occassional hello through a text and that pisses my GF off so I jsut earased her number completely and have never seen or talked to her in about 3 months. Thats not the half of it though. I can't talk to my other "'girl" friends as well even though there just friends for years through high school. I don't know what to do! She is extremely bi-polar and seems like she still has deep feelings for her 2 year ex BF. Her bi-polarness is almost unbareable. She has broken up with me like 3 times and for some stupid reason I keep crawling back because I just feel like someday she will realize and open her eyes that I will never cheat on her. I feel like I have lost all my friends and she never makes me feel comfortable when I go out with my friends. Constantly chekcs on me and accuses me of cheating on her. I can't take the inside torture anymore! Help me ASAP! thankyou
Stop wasting your time. Her behavior won't change. Do you really want a lifetime of this? She has issues that you aren't going to solve for her...no matter how great a guy you are. Sorry.
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