Should you stay or should you go? If you are on the fence about whether or not your relationship is working, consider the top three reasons why couples decide to split.
“I don’t know what to do,” Jennifer said. “I like Greg a lot and we have our fun moments, but something doesn’t feel right.” Sound familiar? We hear this kind of statement on a regular basis from persons entering the foggy bog of uneasiness about their relationship. Jennifer and Greg had been dating for nearly eight months when she confessed, “I can’t tell if it’s worth it or not.” If you’ve ever wondered the same thing, we want to help you cut through the nebulous emotions and see your condition more clearly.
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There are probably countless reasons why couples split, but in a study asking more than 150 dating couples who had just broken up to write an anonymous essay on “why we broke up,” three reasons appeared again and again. Desire for autonomy topped the list. Some men (27%) and many women (44%) complained of feeling trapped by their dating partner. “He was upset whenever I went out with friends,” one woman wrote, “even if I couldn’t have been with him at that time because of his obligations.” One man said, “I felt like a possession.” Most people want intimacy and connection in a dating relationship, but not at the price of reasonable freedom.
As much as I love the man I have been with,it's hard to let go,but when he condems me won't make love to me and tells me he wishes I were dead. I would have to say ITS TIME TO let him GO for GOOD and not to look back. He is a very selfish person that I would do anything for although he does absolutley nothing for me. Why and how could I possibly still LOVE him? what is wrong with me?
I agree so much with the first listed reason in this article. There is nothing worse than having someone cling to you so much that you can't turn around without bumping into that person. I think this has a lot to do with insecurity on the clingy person's part. That's a big turn off.
I have been with this guy going on 3 yrs but i feel he is'nt understanding me anymore like i am just here and thats all it is i am in love with him but i am so tired of feeling all alone all the time i am scared that if i leave i will not have a place to go what should i do?
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