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While on the road from savvy singledom to happily hooked up, chances are good that, at one time or another, you’ll find yourself in the following scenario: You meet someone new. He or she looks good (you’re attracted), sounds good (the conversations are electric), and has plenty of potential (checks in all the right boxes). There’s just one thing: His or her lip-locking abilities are, well, lackluster.
Assess the Situation
Let’s be honest. While exciting, the first time you kiss someone new can also be incredibly nerve-racking. Instead of writing your date off as hopeless, first consider the circumstances surrounding your bad kiss. Was your date nervous, tipsy, and/or in an environment that wasn’t conducive to a first kiss (in public, about to jump in a cab, or standing awkwardly at your front door at the end of an exhilarating evening)? Your sweetie could’ve just had a case of performance anxiety. And if all other signs point to “go,” your date deserves the benefit of the doubt.
Translation: Give that cutie a chance at redemption by creating a comfortable kissing environment on your next date. Think about snuggling on a comfy couch, standing on a secluded street corner under the moonlight, sitting on a picnic blanket in the park, etc. You may be surprised at how much better the kiss is the second time around. And if so, congratulations! Problem solved. If not, keep reading. There’s still hope!
Set an Example
One of the best ways to inspire a satisfying lip-lock is to gently take the lead. Lean in, plant your lips on your date’s, and show ’em how it’s done! By demonstrating what you like, your date will pick up on your physical cues and, with any hope, match your kissing style. It’s important to do this early on in your courtship so that any bad lip-locking habits can be nipped in the bud and quickly corrected.
Play the Mirror Game
If your new love still isn’t catching on, you may need to try a more direct approach. When the time is right (not after an argument or a long, difficult day at work), snuggle up to your sweetie and suggest that you play a little game. Keep in mind that diplomacy goes a long way when trying to retrain a lousy lip-locker. Instead of coming out and saying, “I don’t like the way you kiss. Here’s how you should do it,” softly suggest that you play the mirror game. Start by saying, “First, I’ll kiss you and then you kiss me the exact same way. Then, you start and I’ll follow.”
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