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Help! I Can't Stand the Rejection

Nobody said making your way through the dating world is easy. When you're hit with a string of bad dates, no-shows and never-calls, keeping your head above it all can be tricky. But never fear, eHarmony Advice is here to give you a boost.

Does your love life feel like a broken record that keeps skipping the second date? Or maybe it doesn’t even get that far—you enjoy a nice email exchange and a couple phone calls but always wind up riding solo on the Lonesometown Express.

When battling rejection, how can you withstand the constant blows to your ego and still come out a champion? eHarmony Advice has a few ideas.

Keep some Perspective

Remember, in this world where people must constantly fight against disease, wildfires, and droughts, your dating issues are not the biggest problem humanity has ever had to conquer. And haven’t you had some successes in your personal life that far outweigh any temporary setbacks you’re feeling in your love life?

When love seems to be slamming the door in your face, it’s important to remember the windows you’ve opened for yourself. These can be personal goals met, adversities overcome at work, self-expression achieved through art, or the contribution made by helping others. And don’t forget the other types of love all around you! The bonds you have with family and friends are more important than a few relative strangers’ decisions on whether or not to date you. The support of people who care about you can even be the springboard that allows you to jump back into the dating pool.

Think Like a Salesperson

Have you ever had a job where you had to sell something expensive, such as a car or a set of diamond earrings? When people are shopping for someone dear to them, they’re highly selective, and many people walk out of the shop without buying. It doesn’t mean that your cars aren’t fast or your diamonds aren’t sparkly. These people may just want a car with more seat belts or different hubcaps, or they may simply be willing to settle for an amethyst.

A good salesman knows that every sale is important, but he also knows how to size up a person who’s not buying, so he can get on with his day and make a real sale. In the world of dating, make sure you don’t spend too much time or emotional capital on the people who are on the fence. Feel confident in yourself, and save your best sales pitch for the buyers who really like your brand.

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