Flirting: How to Get the Girl Without Playing Games

Okay guys, listen up. Want to improve your overall game in 2008? Success is easier than you think—and you don’t have to be a player to score a girl’s digits. But you do need to master the fine art of the initial approach, a.k.a. first-impression flirting.


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Okay guys, listen up. Want to improve your overall game in 2008? Success is easier than you think—and you don’t have to be a player to score a girl’s digits. But you do need to master the fine art of the initial approach, a.k.a. first-impression flirting. If that’s not your strong suit, don’t stress. The truth is, it’s not about delivering a killer line or perfecting a suave smile that makes the girl weak in the knees. To make a lasting (positive) first impression, all you need is a relaxed confidence when you approach and the ability to sustain genuine interest in what she has to say. For more tips on how to master first impression flirting, read on...

Confidence is key
When approaching a woman, confidence is essential. Instead of over-thinking what you’re going to say or how she’s going to react, your focus should be on embodying your most confident self. That means good posture, eye contact, and a relaxed (not forced or smarmy) smile. Once you’ve approached, maintain that eye contact, relax your smile, and just say hi. If she smiles and says hi back, she’s giving you permission to talk to her. If she gives you attitude/the cold shoulder, don’t return the bad mojo. Instead, remain your confident self as you walk past her and look for someone else to approach. After all, you never know if she has a cute friend who may be more receptive to you. If you’re a jerk, her friend will never give you the time of day. If you’re cool, you may just leave Attitude Girl wishing she’d given you a shot when she sees you with her gal pal.

Be yourself (don’t be a player)
In 2008, women are savvy enough to recognize when they’re being played. And while there’s plenty of evidence that The Game works for confidence-challenged guys looking to cultivate a player persona, you don’t need to rely on gimmicks to get a girl’s attention. Instead, just be yourself. Your most confident, smart, understatedly sexy self, of course! Women dig a guy who’s comfortable in his own skin, and isn’t afraid to approach a woman he’s interested in. Again, it’s not a clever line that’s going to rock her world. If she gives you the green light to approach and talk to her, initiate a light/friendly conversation and just be yourself!

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curiousme5 wanton outlaw :)

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Uncle Apple wrote:

Spider wrote:
This was interesting, but I still don't see the difference between flirting and a friendly conversation. I can certainly tell when a guy is over the line into smarmy, but I can't tell when a guy is expressing interest beyond the neighborly. I've been told by others that someone was "hitting on" me, but I just don't get that kind of vibe. Just sign me, "Socially Challenged."

What is the difference between flirting and friendly converstation?? Ok, Spider, are you sitting donw? All tvs and and media players silcenced? Because here's the difference: They're basically the same but it depends on how you say, everything that you say. There's more than one kind of flirting, but verbal kind some times gets more attention. Maybe even better results. Open your mind to receiving those vibes. You are likely always day dreaming, when someone is talking to you. Where as you might hear the person talking to you, your thought is else where, so you either don't catch the vibes, and/or wha the person is doing, and you don't comprehend. Or you hear the other person, but because your thought is else where, you don't remember what the person said. It happens. So just open your mind to the vibes, and to atttracting men.
Anyway, I think the article was good, but lacking in details. But I was thinking so much about what to say to Spider, that I forgot what the article was lacking. However, I know eye contact is necessary. It was grilled into me, years ago.

from someone over 18 I hope! Hmm? haven't forgot your creepy post from a few weeks ago uncle A

- August 16, 2008 11:38 PM

curiousme5 wanton outlaw :)

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DetroitDon wrote:

Yawn......There is nothing in this article that any high schooler would not innately know. If you really want to "get the girl" you have to be JUST cocky enough to lightly ruffle some feathers without pulling any out. There is a fine line and you have to learn to judge the situation. Practice being just a little cocky on women you have no interest in dating (you will be less nervous); maybe the woman who held the elevator door for you, or the one who sells you the paper in the morning. Being just cocky enough means you are just slightly larger than life; you smile a little more, your handshake lasts a millisecond longer, you are a little louder, you make eye contact a little longer. Soon it will become second nature, so go get 'em, Killer.

hmmmm... me likeyWink

- August 16, 2008 11:35 PM

AudioSuede is feeling alive

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I don't know how accurate this article is, but I'm going to study it as much as possible. What can it really hurt, right? Thanks for writing this!

- August 16, 2008 11:23 PM

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