Five Ways to Scare a Guy Away

Ladies, is your dating behavior scaring guys away? Check out what you shouldn't do or say on those first few dates.

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There may be 50 ways to leave your lover, but there are almost that many ways to send him running for the hills. Let us focus on the five that will have him screaming “Check please!” before dessert.

1) Those Three Little Words

While it’s clear that men like to hear that you love them, timing is everything. So while you may be excited to have finally found someone you’re compatible with, try to rein in the desire to blurt out that you’ve totally fallen for him for at least a couple of months. Say it during the first few dates, and his mind will process those three precious words into one scary one: psycho. He needs to time to process what he’s feeling about you, and you both need time for infatuation to settle into something more real.

2) Cracking Knuckles and other Manly Moves

The days of women casting coy smiles from behind paper fans may be long gone, but a guy still appreciates a little femininity in his potential love match.

So while those tricks where you crack open a beer bottle with your teeth and say the names of everyone in the room with a belch are no doubt impressive, you should think about promoting your gentler qualities in a relationship’s early stages. He’s not looking for a return to Victorian values, but he’d probably like to think he could beat you in a Jäger shoot-out or an arm-wrestling match. Even if he can’t.

3) Going Bridal

Okay, we know that one day you might want to get married – we’re not stupid – but there’s an order to these things, and subscribing to the bride and wedding magazines and studying your diamond cuts before you’ve even met a guy is classic carat-before-horse territory. So when he turns up at your place and sees a bookshelf full of dog-eared bridal magazines and your computer’s home page set to Enchanted Weddings, he’s likely to suddenly get very busy at work. Wanting to get married to a man you love is one thing, trying to fit a mysterious anybody into your wedding-day fantasy is another.

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littlebluemonkeymind

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Overez wrote:

littlebluemonkeymind wrote:

I can't remember ever buying a wedding magazine or daydreaming about a wedding. I eloped!

And now, courtesy of my insomniac brain, a bit of silliness before I wander off to do something constructive.

5 Things To Say On a Really Bad First Date With a Guy You Want to Scare Away:

1) For my birthday, I want a Remington 870 12-gauge pump-action shotgun with a pistol grip. (This worked really well in Washington. Now that I'm in Mississippi, it might actually be a turn-on.)

2) Shhhh....I can't hear the voices in my head.

3) My psychiatrist says I'm almost ready to leave the halfway house.

4) My novel is 2036 pages long and it's all about the perfidy of men. I'll expect you to read it before our next date.

5) I'm really looking forward to our next date. I should be out in two years with time off for good behavior.

Now that I've got that out of my system...

Hey ya littleblue: That was Priceless!!!!

Thx. BTW, #1 is true (but not recommended as date talk). Wink

- August 13, 2008 06:44 AM
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Overez Sometimes it's not the journey but the experience that was worth the trip!

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littlebluemonkeymind wrote:

I can't remember ever buying a wedding magazine or daydreaming about a wedding. I eloped!

And now, courtesy of my insomniac brain, a bit of silliness before I wander off to do something constructive.

5 Things To Say On a Really Bad First Date With a Guy You Want to Scare Away:

1) For my birthday, I want a Remington 870 12-gauge pump-action shotgun with a pistol grip. (This worked really well in Washington. Now that I'm in Mississippi, it might actually be a turn-on.)

2) Shhhh....I can't hear the voices in my head.

3) My psychiatrist says I'm almost ready to leave the halfway house.

4) My novel is 2036 pages long and it's all about the perfidy of men. I'll expect you to read it before our next date.

5) I'm really looking forward to our next date. I should be out in two years with time off for good behavior.

Now that I've got that out of my system...

Hey ya littleblue: That was Priceless!!!!

- August 12, 2008 05:24 PM
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RobinLee wrote:

I'm not your usual man. So I'd like to know 5 Ways to scare a woman away just like Cammie down below wants to know. My being thin AND my inquisitiveness scares them away. But I don't want to be someone I'm not just like Cammie said. So that's one of my idiosyncracies. They say on T.V. that women DON'T go for brawny men, but prefer intelligent ones. Well, I haven't seen that. What I've mainly seen is that women only want big strong hunky macho men as boyfriends, but thin intelligent ones as just friends. What do you have to say about that ? Don't forget about the 5 scary ways. BTW, I've been told I'm intelligent all my life because I speak Mandarin Chinese, Spanish, French, & German about equally fluently. Next are Swedish & Esperanto. I also can communicate in Hungarian & somewhat in Russian, Dutch, & Itaiian... and that's not even what I do best ! Other than make love (LOL) , I play the piano the best. I just got through helping college students with their calculus. I'm looking for a single woman who wants to go on a cruise to the Bahamas with me.

Sincerely, Robin Lee (pseudo-name on the internet)

Hi RobinLee,

if you're in doubt about women liking thin, intelligent men, you could benefit from David Tennant as a role model. Women just swoon over him, lemme tell you (it could be the accent, too. I dunno). I have no idea why a person wouldn't be interested in a thin, intelligent man...those are the kinds I've liked best (tried the brawny macho type; gets old very fast).

If you want my opinion, here it is. These probably won't apply to you, but maybe they'll spark some creative ideas in someone else reading:

1. Some intelligent people can get absorbed, and moody. That gets old fast.

2. Some intelligent people have this thing for video games, and can play for hours on end. 'Nuff said.

3. Intellectual pursuits/deep conversations can be great. That being said, a boating excursion, hike, or bike ride can really bond a couple, and be exhilarating, liberating, and memorable. It sounds like you have the boating idea well in hand.

4. Some intelligent people base their self-worth on their brains, and if they're challenged, they get seriously ornery. I think of Einstein, whose wife was a great mind herself...but he belittled her when he became famous.

5. Learn to appreciate your own body for what it can do, and never compare. You never know how many "brawny" guys might be jealous of what you have!

- August 11, 2008 11:57 PM
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