Deepak Chopra: What I've Learned About Love

We caught up with famous author Deepak Chopra for his thoughts on romance, relationships and those intoxicating feelings of falling in love!

Deepak Chopra: What I've Learned About Love
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Deepak Chopra, the famous author of many works including his latest, Jesus: A Story of Enlightenment, shared his unique insights on one of life's most important subjects -- love. Read on for his thought-provoking quotes on romance, relationships and true love.

Love is not just a sentiment. Love is the ultimate truth at the heart of creation.

Any relationship that’s based on need is doomed for failure. And any relationship that is based on playfulness leads to ecstasy.

When you have the intoxication of love, your body makes dopamine, opiates, serotonin, and oxytocin. These hormones are not only antidepressants, and induce a subjective sense of euphoria, but they’re also immunomodulators. They modify, modulate, and fortify your immune system, so you’re a much healthier person. When people are experiencing either the giving or receiving of love, their body starts to self-regulate and restore homeostasis, which means that all your body systems are performing at a peak level.



Our meaning and context in life come from relationships. In the absence of relationships, we don’t even exist.

A bad relationship is one in which there is controlled manipulation, where people need constant approval and reinforcement that they are liked or loved -- in other words, where there is a lot of insecurity.

It would be a big loss to not have a romantic bond, because the romantic bond sparks a different kind of energy in us. It’s an important aspect of love. Love has many flavors, but one of them is romance, which of course includes sexuality.

When you’ve found someone, identify the qualities in them that you find attractive, and then display those same qualities yourself. In other words, don’t borrow their energy, but become their energy.

It’s my understanding that our spirit or consciousness outlives the death of the physical body. So if our consciousness lives on, then so does love.

People who have no relationships are three to five times as likely to die from cardiovascular illness or cancer.

[Couples] have to reassure each other that they’re always there for each other. And they have to make each other feel safe. And that comes by having a common goal and a common commitment to each other. And when people have that, love makes them feel safe, and love actually begins to heal their physical bodies and their emotions.

When you fall in love with somebody, simply write down the traits that you really admire in them and then say to yourself, 'I will also display those traits.' And when you do that, you’re no longer borrowing their energy, you’re becoming that energy. And then instead of need, there’s time to play and enjoy.

You can trace all violence to the lack of or having poor relationships, either in childhood or in romantic relationships. I think all the people in the world who commit violent crimes or who are engaged in terrorism at some point experienced a deep lack of love.

When you have the experience of love, either giving it or receiving it, you become magnanimous to the rest of the world. That’s why people in love can do extraordinary things!

Deepak Chopra's long-awaited new book, Jesus: A Story of Enlightenment, is in stores November 4.

Photo Credit: Jeremiah Sullivan

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486gurus wrote:

Deepok Chopra is a big fake. He (and I ) live in the same town in Iowa where he is a follower of the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. Followers of this man M.M.Y. are registered as a cult in the cult registry in Chicago. These people toss around words like enlightenment and tranquility and conciousness while engaging in mindless following of "movement" higher-ups who tell them what to eat, when to meditate, how to orient their architecture (doors only on certain sides of the house, house must have cupolas, need to have fenced yards to exclude negative energy etc. All these things are forms of behavior modification with the goal of mind control). Check it out for yourself and decide if you really want to take this mans advice and continue to enrich him by purchasing his books.

It's finally about time! Thank you, 486gurus, for writing this. While I don't know how big a fake Deepok Chopra is, he says nothing new or insightful about God, spirituality or love that hasn't already been said hundreds or thousands of years ago by people much more articulate, smarter and wiser than he.

If people wish to purchase his books, fine. Enrich the man to the point that he'll be a rich man, which I'm sure he is by now. But at least know from where he's coming, so to speak, meaning, of course, from where he derives his beliefs, views and positions on a wide variety of subjects. It's easy to toss around words like "enlightenment," "tranquility" and "consciousness" in such a meretricious manner, one that can easily dupe the masses. But if people want to be duped and hand over their (hard-earned) money, well, isn't this country great? No, not according to Deepok Chopra. But he'll gladly use it to his advantage (and personal enrichment).

Few men make themselves masters of the things they write or speak. When a book and a head collide and there is a hollow sound, is it always in the book?

- December 07, 2008 01:43 AM

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Alexamenos, you use the word "hell" to express the lack of value Deepak view. Then you attack eharmony about "Christian roots" which shows your predjudice, and hatred. There is nothing Christ like in your actions, but this is not your fault. Read "Breathlessboy" from Nov. 30. It appears you qualify under his explanation of those without love. As he suggest I will pray for you to think for yourself, instead of repeating hate that is instilled in you.

- December 06, 2008 05:21 PM

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Who the hell gives a rip about what this fraud Deepak says?

This eharmony thing is a supposed to be have Christian roots and/or orientation?

What a laugh.

- December 05, 2008 11:06 AM

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