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There’s no doubt that dating is a process of trial and error and that what works for some, doesn’t work for others. As Albert Einstein once said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” But while a few blunders are bound to happen along the way, others can be side-stepped if you not what to look out for. Here are some of the most common mistakes made when dating in the UK.
1. Mentioning commitment too soon
It’s important to show that you care, but talking about the future too soon is dangerous ground. And don’t be tempted to probe for clues about how your date feels. The early weeks and months should be devoted to getting comfortable together and establishing if there’s enough of a connection without the pressure of what lies in store. It will be obvious when the time is right to broach the topic so don’t force the issue.
2. Sharing relationship baggage
Don’t divulge too much too quickly. Dating should be filled with excitement about meeting someone new and talking about past relationship failures will only smother this. Remember, your date is not your counsellor! Keep things fresh and fun at the beginning and there will be plenty of time to share more later.
3. Interviewing a date
It is natural to want to find out as much as you can about your date, especially if you’ve never met them before. But avoid firing questions at them or it will feel like you’re conducting an interview. Base your conversation on their tastes, experiences and interests and avoid probing too far. You’ll only make them feel uncomfortable.
4. Being unappreciative
If someone asks you out and takes pains to plan a thoughtful evening, make sure you thank them. It’s easy to forget that doing this takes guts so it’s important to let them know that you don’t take this for granted. A little appreciation goes a long way.
