Breaking the Gender Stereotype

I think that most women only want sex about every three months. The ones that say they 'need it all the time' are lying so that they'll get more attention and more dates. Women just aren't programed to be wanting sex as much as men.

Actually, my wife (Joan Sewell) wrote a book about men and women's differences in libido, and she has another on the way. According to her research, which includes data from cross cultural studies, most men want sex more often and with greater variety than most women, most of the time. Are there some women who want sex more than most men? Sure. But they are in the minority. Since there are over 6 billion people on the planet, we might assume there are at least 3 billion males and 3 billion females, roughly (it doesn't quite break down like that, but close enough for our purposes). However, if we throw out the number of people who are underage or elderly, we end up with a smaller number of men and women. Let's be generous and knock the number of women down to 1.5 billion. Now, even if there are "tens of thousands" of high libido women (women who sex as much or more than most men do) out there, as sex pundit Dan Savage claims, just how many women out of 1.5 billion does that make? Suppose that "tens of thousands" means 90 thousand. If so, then 90 thousand out of 1.5 billion is only .006% of women in the world. That's right, guys: if you were assigned to randomly date any one of those 1.5 billion women, your chances of dating a woman with a lower libido than your's is over 99%! Sarah STL: You say men use sex as a bribe? Perhaps you'd like to support that wild claim--last time I looked at Maxim, FHM, Stuff, and the other male magazines, they were giving advice to men on how to pick up women, and offering sex to women isn't one of the winning techniques, it's sure to send them running. If anyone uses sex as a bribe, it's women--just read Glamour, Cosmo, and the rest of the women's magazines that give advice to women on how to snag a man's heart through sex. Jay, if women are so "insatiable," then they must have an iron will men don't! Believe me, if women are as preoccupied with sex as men, you'd have a lot more male prostitutes for women, strip clubs for women, and they wouldn't be as worried about the chocolate as they would be about getting sex. And no, we are not just "equal but different" (whatever that means) in terms of libido. That's politically correct nonsense. What my wife and I continue to see is a conflation of social equality (equal pay and equal opportunity) with hormonal equality. Just because men and women should have equal legal rights doesn't mean they are equally horny. I suppose exceptional women out of that alleged 90,000 will dispute my remarks, but they would be incorrect to extrapolate from themselves to the majority and think that they are typical. And I suppose a lot of women like to think of themselves as hornier than they really are or put on a false front of being sexually predatory; I assume we'll hear from them too. But it would be far better for the rest of us to ignore these exceptions and focus on the real disparity in libidos that men and women in general have. Only when we bite the bullet and face the truth head on will we be able to deal with it like adults.