5 Types of Women that Men Avoid

Men don't give these personalities a second thought.


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Too often a day in the life of the dating world goes something like this: you meet someone, have a few conversations over the phone, go out once and then never see that person again. 

Sound familiar? Chances are while you were on your date you discovered a personality that you know you just can’t deal with. It’s not that your date was creepy or malicious; you just know that a long-term relationship with that person won't work out.

Dating is not about putting people into categories, but there are some personalities that just make a person want to turn and run. You’ve read the 5 Types of Men that Women Avoid, and because we’re all about being fair to both sexes, we have the other side: Five Types of Women that Men Avoid.

1) The Flirty-Bird

Men love women who flirt. Men are drawn to a good flirt because besides being fun and charming, she’s definitely not shy. The flirter shows interest right off the bat, making the “getting to know you” aspect of courtship all the more easy. For a guy, not having to do all the work is a relief.

But there’s a difference between a situational flirt and a serial flirt, and the latter is something that men just don’t want to deal with. A serial flirt giggles, touches, and tosses her hair at everyone: the best friend, the boss, the father. A woman who bats her lashes indiscriminately seems like a challenge at first—How do I get her to just pay attention to me?—but that game gets old really fast.

After a while guys realize that the Flirty-Bird needs constant attention because she’s stricken with major self-esteem issues. An extremely confident and patient man may be able to deal with this kind of behavior, but he’ll probably run himself ragged before realizing that the Flirty-Bird isn’t worth his time.

2) The Commitment-Phile

Imagine that you’re a guy for a second. You meet a fantastic woman and you’re having a great first date. The lighting is just right and the food is perfect. You’re sharing a great conversation and just beginning to get comfortable when…WHAM! Your date starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and Big Lug, the name of your future dog.

It puts a lot of pressure on a guy right off the bat. In any healthy relationship, the first couple of months—and especially the first couple of dates—should be kept light. A woman who fast-forwards to the happily ever after makes guys wonder if they really are her perfect match. With such a speedy narrative, perhaps her plans are all about fulfilling her dreams regardless of who is standing across from her at the altar.

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chawks64 has no working air conditioning and it's 103.

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Immerito wrote:

One woman I'm surprised hasn't come up in this thread:

The Man-Mocker (or Male-Bashing Woman): A woman who regularly and habitually shows disrespect for her husband/boyfriend by leaving him out of important decisions, showing little to no regard for his opinion on some, many or all subjects, "teasing" or "joking" about his failings whenever they are with family, friends or acquaintances. This same woman would feel slighted/hurt if a man did the same to her. Note: said woman may or may not be/describe herself as a feminist.

Questions for discussion:

Men: Was this woman left out because you don't tend to avoid her, you forgot to include her, or you don't come across her very often?

How important is it to you is the respect of your girlfriend or female friends?

To what degree do you need respect?

I recently read "For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men" by Shaunti Feldhahn, and am curious about what the men on EHarmony think on the subject of respect.

Ooooh, that's a bad one that I see a LOT! Always tried to avoid being like that. Too many women humiliate their men, especially in public, then have no respect for them because they don't act "manly" enough. Gee, wonder what caused that. I always thought that, if I treated my honey like Superman in front of his friends, I could always be his Lois Lane.

Also read "For Women Only" at the request of a date's frend. GREAT book, though most of it was stuff I already knew. I also read "For Men Only", just to make sure what he was reading was accurate, and it was dead on. I highly recommend both books.

As for an answer to your question, I'm just a chick, but I always felt men NEEDED respect. But I could be wrong.

- August 10, 2008 03:35 PM

singincindylou is happy.

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ravitkd wrote:

Hey guys, I tell you another characteristic of a woman I cannot stand are those that freak out on you. Most of the women I have dated or have had relationships with have been divorced, and still have scars from it. First, we open up communications, we e-mail each other, call each other, and the woman tells me her pity stories of her divorce and how all she wants to do is meet a nice guy. We have our first date, then after that she does now know what to think because she has never dated a nice guy/gentleman before. So, they freak out and drop off the face of the earth.

My last relationship was with a woman who has three daughters and two ex husbands. When we had our first date, she said all she wanted was to meet a nice guy. Things went great for the next four months, then she goes from saying "I love you" during her lunch hour at work to telling me it's all over that same night. Apparently, she is not fully recovered from her divorce from her ex husband, or so at least that is what she claims.

Here is another amusing one: A couple of weeks ago, I opened up communications with another girl. Once again, the same song and dance story of how bitter her divorce was, and how painful it was. We make plans to have out first date for a week later, we talk almost every evening on the phone, getting to know each other better. I really thought we had some chemistry. Then on a Thursday afternoon, she calls me to reconfirm our date for Friday. All seemed well. Then after I get back from Taekwondo class, there is an e-mail from her saying she has to cancel the date because it was exactly one year ago when she broke up with her ex husband, and the memories are still too fresh.

I know that freaking out is human nature, and its perfectly natural to freakout. Hell, even I freak out every once in a while. But, I don't give into my fears. I believe in giving a person a chance.

So, to all of the divorced women out there, when you meet a nice guy, all I ask is that you please give him a chance and don't freak out!!!!!

At the risk of sounding like a game player, may I suggest that women have a desire to be pursued. Maybe the "freak out" is simply an unconscious stepping back so that they can be pursued. Men were created to be "Hunters" and society has taught them otherwise. I can tend to be very forward and controlling but am learning to step back and let the man make the appropriate moves. When you get ready for hunting, dont you have to make many preparations for whatever circumstance may occur? You have to study the terrain, weather, altitude, and be sure you have all the gear to help you be prepared. When the animal "freaks out" because you got a little too close, too soon, then you must adjust and make a new plan of pursuit, that is if you want the catch. You may at this time be cold, winded, hungry, or just plain tired and decide she is not worth the pursuit. Sometimes it could be because of a blemish you see on the animal, but often it is because you didnt come prepared for what it takes to catch her. Maybe she simply needs to see if you will still pursue the relationship. I am not saying that the "freak out" is a manipulative move on her part. It was most likely a genuine, "oh my, what am I doing here." Remember, the majority of women operate on emotions more so than men. What you call "freak out" is normal for her. If you want a woman in your life, you may have to learn to deal with the "freak out" thing and figure out what it takes to woo her back and calm her fears, when it happens. Just like the "Horse Whisperer" has to draw near to the horse and whisper calm words to the fearful horse, you may have to draw near and be calm and loving to alleviate her fears. If you are not willing to do this and dont have the patience for this type of response, then she is most likely better off without you. This may be harsh, and merely my opinion, but I have also been through a 21 year marriage and have 3 almost grown children, so have been around the block a few times. Blessings to you.

- August 10, 2008 02:58 PM

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Then #6 must be: The honest, direct female. Men want to hear what a female "means"??? I don't think so. Men seem to prefer not 'understanding' what communication 'means' to give them an easy way out. Men that I've met don't know what to do with honest and direct communication. Don't ask me a question if you want to hear something other than the truth, about anything. It's a much easier and intelligent conversation when an interpretive dictionary is needed.

- August 07, 2008 04:10 PM

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