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4 Signs You're a Control Freak

If everything is your way or the highway, you're probably a control freak. Controlling your controlling ways may be the key to finding a significant other.

Control freak. Two little words with ugly implications. If anyone’s ever labeled you a control freak, you know just how uncomfortable the label feels. The truth is, when it comes to your love life, being a control freak can be a huge handicap. It can even sabotage your chances of relationship success.

In order to improve your odds of happily ever after, you may first need to let go of your controlling ways. The following are four signs that you might be a control freak. If you recognize yourself in any of the signs, follow the advice below to break free of your controlling nature.

Sign #1: It’s Your Way or the Highway

You might be a control freak if being right is more important to you than being fair. This is especially true in relationships. Take a look at past romantic partnerships and ask yourself how you handled misunderstandings, arguments, and other confrontational communication. Did you insist on being right? Was being right more important than seeing the other person’s side of the story? If so, you just might have control issues. Left unchecked, these issues can lead to being labeled a control freak. If this scenario sounds familiar, you owe it to yourself and your future relationship partner to let go of your incessant need to be right and instead focus on being fair. The next time the urge to be right rears its ugly head, take a deep breath, remind yourself that being right is not more important than having a healthy relationship, and acknowledge the other person’s point of view.

Sign #2: You Insist on a Rigid Schedule

In life and on dates, do you prefer to stick to events you can schedule on your calendar? If it’s not something you can squeeze in between work, Pilates class, and picking up your dry cleaning, then you just don’t have time for it. Sound familiar? This is another sign that you may be a control freak. The truth is, falling in love cannot be scheduled. You never know when or where you’ll meet someone special, how they’ll rock your world, and/or what it is about them that makes your heart race. That’s the beauty of falling in love. It’s unpredictable, unplanned, and impossible to schedule. In order to be open to real and lasting love, you first need to close your calendar, open your mind, and welcome the unexpected.

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