20 Essential Break Up Movies

"Under the Tuscan Sun" I've always loved that movie. It's more of a journey to find a true self fulfilment in life. While I was going through my divorce I watched it more than 100 times.

Everytime I was let down I put that movie on. like...Few days ago I watched it 4 times until I felt better.

Sometimes even thugh you do try your best to make things work,... shit happens in life. It's not you. At least it's good to know that you've done your best.

And when shit happens...like break up...how does one pick onseself up?

After being with somebody so long sometimes you do kinda lose yourself in the process and that's why it's extra hard to pick yourself up again.

Then what do you do.... find yourself again...in a newer and a better way. Then you can truely move on. I am still in the process but at least I am really enjoying to get to know myself again.

like that old song "Breaking up is haaaard to do" Who hasn't been there at some point in what we thought was a serious relationship full of promise. It helps to understand that his or her part in your story is O.V.E.R. It's not easy at first, but try and think in terms of "if it were supposed to be it would have been" Instead of moping and crying and asking the never ending WHY? WHY? WHYS? with no realalistic answers. We have a responsibility to ourselves to pull our lives out of what could have, would have, should have self-inflicted pain and look to now and the future. When I lost what I thought of at the time as "the love of my life" I thought I would cease to exist without him. That was then and now is now. I'm glad that I woke myself up to the fact that maybe I'd been spared. It's easy to imagine a rosey future with someone when in reality, if you had tied the knot, perhaps it would have fallen apart then instead of before the fact. Think of things to be grateful for every day, every hour if it's that painful at first. The more effort you can muster with each successive day, you find yourself actually healing instead of ripping the wound open all the time with what you felt were happy memories. If it breaks up, let's face it, there were flaws all along that you blinded yourself to. Start smelling the roses again and breath and be thankful. You are now freee to meet someone who really apprecaites YOU.

Diary of a Mad Black women is seriosly my strength movie. My current relationship remindes me alot of this movie and everytime i get week I think of Madea saying "if you get the chance to beat the shit outta of him and you do you aint over him if you dont...then you are" sadly to say im not...and dont think I ever will be